Question - stereotypes.

[marita_c]

From the world of totally random questions for my writing project:

An army General (nice guy, but probably sleeps in his uniform) as a top in a gay BDSM relationship - too stereotypical?  (pretend you saw it on TV, as unlikely as that sounds... Would you find it annoying? Offensive?)  

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[marita-c.livejournal.com]

I would have preferred to have him as submissive, because the whole "letting go of responsibilities" think would work very well. Unfortunately, having the other guy as the top messes with my plot... I'll give it some more thought.

And oooh!!!! yes please!!! do you have military experience? Is there a name for the caps that go with formal uniforms? i.e., the firm ones, not berets. I have so many questions!

[51stcenturyfox.livejournal.com]

Service cap!

Or bus-driver cap, in the slangy vernacular.

Yup, I'm a veteran. Not Army, but I know about the Army. :D

The dominant setup could be that he was dominant when he was a younger guy -- a lieutenant, or in college, maybe -- when he didn't have other power, really, and found it suited him.

[marita-c.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

Nice idea. This relationship is mostly implied in the story, and rarely addressed directly. Is it common for someone to alternate between top and bottom in these kind of relationships? I know that in casual relationships ("friends with benefits") one partner often seeks the other with a specific role in mind.

[51stcenturyfox.livejournal.com]

I don't know!

I think xtricks may have more data/insights about D/s stuff among men; he's written a lot of it. :)